As some of you may know, I had my 2nd little girl towards the end of last year. She is happy and healthy and is such a perfect addition to our family…
However – things are about to get a little personal – as much as I love Lila I’ve been battling with some pretty severe depression. Not because she’s a bad baby, in fact she does such a great job sleeping it is amazing! And not because the rest of my family isn’t supportive, because they absolutely are!
If you’re a mom then you may be able to relate to this. I always thought postpartum depression was just a bunch of hog wash. My mom always said it was just an excuse weaker women used to not have to do anything. I didn’t have it with our first little guy so naturally I figured she was right.
But, this time around – no way – I am having it and having it big time! After much reflection I finally determined what it was.
With Lila my body changed…a lot… and not for the better. Stretch marks everywhere, flab and stretched muscles around my tummy, breasts that are so large they hurt…in other words – I don’t look anything like myself and it’s causing me such mental pain.
My husband has encouraged me that I am still beautiful – but I just can’t stand to look at myself.
I went to my OBGYN and he explained that for some women this happens and although some of the “baby weight” can be lost – the stretched muscles and interior ‘destruction’ is not reversible naturally.
So I started researching Mommy Makeovers. I always thought women that had this type of surgery were so vain. I mean, in looking around Houston and the socialites that get plastic surgery, I never even considered it a possibility. But, after some research I discovered that a Mommy makeover doesn’t have to be a procedure to make you look nothing like your old self (a la the famous celebrities that go under the knife).
In fact most women that get the surgical procedure use it more like reconstructive surgery to fix the trauma a women’s body experiences when she delivers a child. After a lot of thought and speaking to multiple Houston plastic surgeons (which is key to me to get several different opinions) I’ve decided to get a Mommy Makeover.
I know some women will call me superficial or vain – but I look at it like this. If someone was in a traumatic accident and required plastic surgery to turn them back into how they looked before the damage was done no one would bat an eye. Well, that is all I’m doing. I’m repairing the damage that was caused during the birth of Lila. So don’t judge – but instead think about this mommy makeover procedure as a reconstructive surgery and not a vanity plastic surgery.
I’ve spoken with several surgeons and have chosen a mommy makeover houston surgeon specialist. He tells me that the procedure is very straightforward and I should recover in a few months time and look like my old self.
I am really looking forward to the procedure and knowing that I won’t have this permanent damage and scarring. I’ll keep all of you up to date on my progress and whether or not this helps my depression.
Have you had any surgery done after your child birth? Any experience with a mommy makeover?